It’s that time of year again when people begin asking my favourite question.
“What is your new year resolution?”
This year, I’ve given the same response; “I don’t have one.” Although it sounds like my only ambition in life is to be an old stale couch potato and not achieve anything… in fact, it is quite the opposite.
New year resolutions is one of the few times we all set a loose goal that we know, deep down, we probably won’t achieve. This isn’t because we are unmotivated souls who are too lazy to make a change but we are setting unrealistic goals that are only for conversation sake. We’ve all heard the “I’m going to exercise more”, “I’m going to quit smoking” and the “I’m going on a diet” resolutions and majority of the time, they become empty and useless quickly.
I must admit I’ve become victim to the trap of having a new year resolution before. I’ve tried to stick to a ridiculous exercise plan, be more organised and neater at school (which never happened) and for at least five years running, I’ve strived to keep a diary up to date (I’ve never lasted longer than April).
I didn’t fail because I’m weak or afraid of changing my habits. I failed because of the whole “New Year New Me” bullshit which encompasses the essence of what New Year Resolutions are mostly about. It’s like we are expected on New Years Eve to be our same old miserable selves and be ready to transform into the offspring of Michelle Bridges and the Commando when the clock strikes 12. It’s ridiculous for anyone to expect themselves to change drastically overnight. A new habit takes a long while to form and if you’re waking up hung over on New Years Day, you’re not making a good start.
I’m not saying setting a goal or wanting to make a change is bad, in fact, it is one of the best things you can do for yourself. I set goals all the time and I work hard at trying to achieve them… and I haven’t needed to buy a new calendar to do it either. The best part is that when I reflect upon myself and acknowledge what I want to improve on, I just do it straight away. I don’t let it slip away from my consciousness. I utilise it in that moment and make a commitment to fulfil it. It sounds simple but it is something that takes practice which I’m still working on too.
So instead of setting another empty resolution this year, I’m going to be mindful and simply reflect on the year that was 2016. Reflect on the happy and jovial moments, on the sad or disappointing ones and the challenges faced. This way, I’ll be waking up fresh, feeling grateful and ready to continue achieving my goals in 2017.
Happy New Year, keep being amazing and eat all the plants,